Right now, I'm in my bed, pondering a question posed by a friend of mine this afternoon. To think I get this question often, not only fro
m guys but from friends as well, it made me think. "What qualities am I really looking for in a potential mate?"
My pal asked me this 'coz she was wondering why I don't seem looking for someone special when in fact, it has already been more than a year since I last got out of a relationship. She even said, if she were in my shoes, she could have had her pick by now, considering she has a thing for one of my prospective suitors. But honestly, I don't have any idea either. I guess I'm at that stage where I'm enjoying to the fullest the "benefits" of being a pursued-single. I find it funny that most girls my age would worryingly cringe at the idea of not being settled yet, with fear that they might not find anyone at all.. You see, there are a few different kinds of girl-species and I just happen not to belong to that cringy kind. Call me weird if you must. =)
I believe that a person should get into a relationship, not because they have to but because they want to. I know a few who jumped into a relationship thinking it was their only choice and that nobody might come along. As expected, they were no fairy-tales.. Sad right? What kind of desperation could have driven
these girls into thinking there is scarcity in men when there are so plenty? It is indeed a ridiculous idea pushing them to believe that their only hope of becoming happy and complete is to snag a guy before they reach 30?
Well, I should probably be thankful I don't share that kind of problem. God must love me so much He sent a few eligible choices my way. And maybe I was blessed with an open mind that acknowledges the fact that it isn't only men that could complete a woman. I guess I'm happy just myself, I feel contented with who I am and I don't need someone to make me feel that I am beautiful in my own right... I admit, I am naturally born picky. Call it a flaw or what, but I don't fall inlove easily, nor do I get infatuated in a snap. It entails a lot of guts to make my head take notice of someone. I'd rather wait to get that "feeling" than jump into something blindly. I've been proposed to a few times by guys who are willing to give up their singlehood for me but as I reminisce all these, all I could do is smile and be thankful... I've been recounting my two past relationships and I realized, both didn't start with attraction. Both were built on friendship, meaning it took time. As I imagined what will happen next gave me a shiver of excitement.
There comes a time in
me that I get exhausted to answer whenever someone asks me what I want in a guy. And now, I think I know what to say... WE have our own ideals in wishing for a mate. But love doesn't work that way, it comes when you least expect it. It just hits you like a lightning bolt and before you know it, there's wildfire everywhere.
But again, going back to the question. I think I couldn't imagine myself being with someone who isn't intelligent. I like guys who can carry on a sensible conversation with me. Of course, someone who dreams big and has a positive outlook in life, someone who knows the meaning of fidelity and respect & someone who would be most patient with me when I'm being difficult.And definitely not the least, nothing could beat a guy who knows how to stand up for a girl. That is something I vowed not to miss next time.
One quote for some of my girl friends I would like to share: You don't need a set of complicated rules to find a good partner. Here's the only rule you'll need. If a man loves you, he will do anything he can to keep you around... ANYTHING....
m guys but from friends as well, it made me think. "What qualities am I really looking for in a potential mate?" My pal asked me this 'coz she was wondering why I don't seem looking for someone special when in fact, it has already been more than a year since I last got out of a relationship. She even said, if she were in my shoes, she could have had her pick by now, considering she has a thing for one of my prospective suitors. But honestly, I don't have any idea either. I guess I'm at that stage where I'm enjoying to the fullest the "benefits" of being a pursued-single. I find it funny that most girls my age would worryingly cringe at the idea of not being settled yet, with fear that they might not find anyone at all.. You see, there are a few different kinds of girl-species and I just happen not to belong to that cringy kind. Call me weird if you must. =)
I believe that a person should get into a relationship, not because they have to but because they want to. I know a few who jumped into a relationship thinking it was their only choice and that nobody might come along. As expected, they were no fairy-tales.. Sad right? What kind of desperation could have driven
these girls into thinking there is scarcity in men when there are so plenty? It is indeed a ridiculous idea pushing them to believe that their only hope of becoming happy and complete is to snag a guy before they reach 30?Well, I should probably be thankful I don't share that kind of problem. God must love me so much He sent a few eligible choices my way. And maybe I was blessed with an open mind that acknowledges the fact that it isn't only men that could complete a woman. I guess I'm happy just myself, I feel contented with who I am and I don't need someone to make me feel that I am beautiful in my own right... I admit, I am naturally born picky. Call it a flaw or what, but I don't fall inlove easily, nor do I get infatuated in a snap. It entails a lot of guts to make my head take notice of someone. I'd rather wait to get that "feeling" than jump into something blindly. I've been proposed to a few times by guys who are willing to give up their singlehood for me but as I reminisce all these, all I could do is smile and be thankful... I've been recounting my two past relationships and I realized, both didn't start with attraction. Both were built on friendship, meaning it took time. As I imagined what will happen next gave me a shiver of excitement.
There comes a time in
me that I get exhausted to answer whenever someone asks me what I want in a guy. And now, I think I know what to say... WE have our own ideals in wishing for a mate. But love doesn't work that way, it comes when you least expect it. It just hits you like a lightning bolt and before you know it, there's wildfire everywhere.But again, going back to the question. I think I couldn't imagine myself being with someone who isn't intelligent. I like guys who can carry on a sensible conversation with me. Of course, someone who dreams big and has a positive outlook in life, someone who knows the meaning of fidelity and respect & someone who would be most patient with me when I'm being difficult.And definitely not the least, nothing could beat a guy who knows how to stand up for a girl. That is something I vowed not to miss next time.
One quote for some of my girl friends I would like to share: You don't need a set of complicated rules to find a good partner. Here's the only rule you'll need. If a man loves you, he will do anything he can to keep you around... ANYTHING....
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